This op-ed against teen condom distribution is a load of horseshit and makes me mad.
The writer seems to be equating teen sex with "alcohol use, racism, sexism, homophobia, guns, bullying, or, God forbid, climate change." What a Victorian, negative, Judeo-Christian sex-is-evil, sex-is-sin attitude. At least this author doesn't seem to be clearly making an argument for abstinence-only education, which is about the most obviously retarded thing known to mankind.
His evidence? Massachusetts law: "Sexual intercourse and sodomy with a person under 16 is criminal in Massachusetts. Consent is not a defense; a victim that young is conclusively presumed to be incapable of giving it." Ah, right, law as morality, as passed by old white men in the 1800s. Lovely.
Friday, May 13, 2011
Thursday, April 7, 2011
Glee: Season 1 Review
This show sounded tremendously stupid when I first heard the concept. But for some reason, it really won me over. I'm a total Gleek!It's not a good show. The characters and story often don't make sense. But the show is extraordinarily entertaining, what with Sue Sylvester's delicious lines and the fun musical numbers. Well, sometimes the musical numbers are not that good, and I see why people say the Glee soundtrack is overproduced, but the first season of this show has been very fun to watch. Just fun. Maybe a little too fun...
Sunday, April 3, 2011
Since When Do I Get Inspired By Images?
Wednesday, March 16, 2011
The Industry Is Out To Get Us
So you want to tie the knot, eh? Well, hundreds of bridal industry businesses want to jump on your boat and drain you for all you're worth, apparently. Dresses can cost up to infinity. Then there's the veil and the shoes and the reception hall and the food and the flowers and the DJ and the party favors and the musicians at the ceremony and the marriage license fee and then you've gotta cough up $400 just to pay some stranger to say a few legally binding words at your non-religious ceremony because of some stupid-ass state law that requires a state-registered officiant to preside over ceremonies.
There's all this hullabaloo about same-sex marriage. Well, clearly the answer is that THE STATE SHOULD GET THE HELL OUT OF MARRIAGE. But of course, all those marriage license fees and boons for the the booming wedding officiant industry--you can't easily wipe those out...
Grrrrrr.
There's all this hullabaloo about same-sex marriage. Well, clearly the answer is that THE STATE SHOULD GET THE HELL OUT OF MARRIAGE. But of course, all those marriage license fees and boons for the the booming wedding officiant industry--you can't easily wipe those out...
Grrrrrr.
Sunday, February 13, 2011
Favorite BtVs Moments/Episodes
Procrastinating from my paper. Here is a list of my favorite moments or episodes from Buffy the Vampire Slayer.
- "Giles, I'm 16 years old. I don't wanna die." in Prophecy Girl, S1 finale
- School Hard, S2 when Spike and Dru are introduced
- Halloween, S2
- What's My Line? (Dru's coming back party), S2
- Innocence, S2
- Passion, S2
- Becoming, S2 finale
- "I'm Buffy, the vampire slayer, and you are?" in Anne, S3 opener
- Spike's speech in Lovers Walk, S3
- The Wish, S3
- Buffy saves Jonathan in Earshot, S3
- "Class Protector Award" in The Prom, S3
- Graduating class fights together in Graduation Day, S3 finale
- Who Are You?, S4
- Willow's spell on Buffy and Spike in Something Blue, S4
- Hush, S4
- "Out for a walk, bitch." in No place Like Home, S5
- Fool for Love, S5
- Crush, S5
- Buffy rewards Spike for not telling Glory about the Key in Intervention, S5
- The Body, S5
- The Gift, S5 finale
- Bargaining, S6
- After Life, S6
- Once More With Feeling, S6
- Tabula Rasa, S6
- Smashed, S6
- Xander saves the world from Willow in Grave, S6 finale
- Spike on the cross and his big reveal in Beneath You, S7
- Buffy tells Spike she believes in him in Never Leave Me, S7
- Lies My Parents Told Me, S7
- Spike's speech to Buffy in Touched, S7
- "Where you there with me?" "I was." in End of Days, S7
- Chosen, S7 finale and series finale
Goodbye Borders
The two years between college and law school were some of my most prolific reading years. (Yes, sad and pathetic, I know. During college and law school, I have been hard pressed to find the time (and mostly the energy) to delve into good books. My attention span usually lasts for a brief tour through the day's news . . . and that's about all. ) The 45-minute-each-way commute lent itself to a glorious one-book-per-week tour through some excellent fiction and non-fiction reading.
During those two years, my favorite haunt was the Borders bookstore in Copley Square, across the street from my workplace. The buy one get 50% off deal got me every time. Sometimes I got lulled into buying completely dull reads (an atrocious book called "Winkie" comes to mind). But other times, I came across influential gems ("Mountains Beyond Mountains," "The Graves Are Not Yet Full") that I might never have read had I just been making a beeline for the book I wanted on Amazon. Mostly, I just really enjoyed the physical act of browsing through a bookstore. I filled my tiny little bookshelf and looked forward to the day when I might get a bigger bookshelf and organize all my books like a geek.
I guess this is a lament, a nostalgic sigh as Borders enters its Chapter 11 proceedings. I suppose the age of the physical store is waning (or already over). First music stores. Now book stores. Perhaps clothing stores are next. I think I may be one of a dying breed who still misses the days of CD albums, who still does not own an iPod or zune or whatever they are called, who prefers a dog-eared book to one of those fancy e-reader or iPad things. I certainly did my part in contributing to the downfall of the physical store, what with all the CDs and DVDs and books that I've bought from Amazon, so I suppose I have no right to complain.That doesn't mean I won't miss the traditional bookstore, though. Goodbye, Borders.
During those two years, my favorite haunt was the Borders bookstore in Copley Square, across the street from my workplace. The buy one get 50% off deal got me every time. Sometimes I got lulled into buying completely dull reads (an atrocious book called "Winkie" comes to mind). But other times, I came across influential gems ("Mountains Beyond Mountains," "The Graves Are Not Yet Full") that I might never have read had I just been making a beeline for the book I wanted on Amazon. Mostly, I just really enjoyed the physical act of browsing through a bookstore. I filled my tiny little bookshelf and looked forward to the day when I might get a bigger bookshelf and organize all my books like a geek.
I guess this is a lament, a nostalgic sigh as Borders enters its Chapter 11 proceedings. I suppose the age of the physical store is waning (or already over). First music stores. Now book stores. Perhaps clothing stores are next. I think I may be one of a dying breed who still misses the days of CD albums, who still does not own an iPod or zune or whatever they are called, who prefers a dog-eared book to one of those fancy e-reader or iPad things. I certainly did my part in contributing to the downfall of the physical store, what with all the CDs and DVDs and books that I've bought from Amazon, so I suppose I have no right to complain.That doesn't mean I won't miss the traditional bookstore, though. Goodbye, Borders.
Monday, February 7, 2011
Ridiculous Email
XX just received the following email from a "friend" she hasn't talked with for many years. Names have obviously been redacted - he'll be referred to as Solicitor and college has also been redacted to College.
Hi XX,
I hope you’re doing well. I haven’t seen you in awhile, but last I heard you’re kicking butt at *Law School*. Have you and *Solicitor's girlfriend* hung out yet in *City Name*? She is finishing up her last year in Med School, so time is running out!
I think you maybe heard, but *Solicitor's girlfriend* and I are getting married! Chicago in early May of 2011. I'm hoping we get OK weather... This Christmas, I brought my never-traveled-internationally family out to China to see *Solicitor's girlfriend*'s extended family in Beijing for a large wedding banquet. It was one of those awesome cultural experiences, and my dad didn't even throw up at the sight of broiled sea cucumber (XY Note: broiled sea cucumber is actually quite good - squeamish Americans...)
Here’s the ulterior (XY Note: at least he acknowledged it) motive part -- I'm writing to see if you wanted to donate to the 5th Reunion *College* Class Gift. After getting thoroughly jaded by being one of *College* Senior Gift leaders (THANK YOU again for donating to Senior Gift and then again in 2007 and 2010!), I didn't think I'd ever again end up helping *College* solicit donations. (XY note: yet here you are...)
What really has resonated with me over the last few years (and made me want to solicit donations again) is how *College* has DRAMATICALLY enhanced financial aid for families of all levels of means. I.E., families with under $60k in income don't pay a cent. And families with incomes up to $180k get some level of financial aid. That's way better than any other school. It allows parents of all means to put their smart kids into *College* and on track to change completely the opportunities that they can access. I'm pledging $5000, myself, to support this continued sweetening of the pot that's going on only at *College*.
Three housekeeping things -- First, obviously your donation i tax deductible. So if you donate this year you can get the deduction for 2011. Second, for the 5th Reunion Gift you can pledge an amount and pay it off over 3 years. For example, if you pledge $1000 (or whatever), you would get that $1000 counted towards the 5th Reunion Gift but you could pay it off in 2012 or 2013. Third, if you have a company or organization that will match donations, the entire amount (including match) gets counted towards your donation.
Any questions, let me know! There are lots of ways that you can direct your donation only to areas you care about most. The website where you can donate is: *website link redacted*. If you want to do the pledge and then pay off over a few years, let me know and I will get you into touch with *Another Solicitor* from the Reunion Committee who can help you..
Finally, if you have some extra time and the inclination, the 5th Reunion Gift Committee is looking for new volunteers. They just recruited me a few months ago...
-*Solicitor*
On a level of 1-10 how inappropriate is this email? I'll put it at a 7. I guess if you have no shame then just spamming people emails like this (faux catch-up with a huge solicitation attached at the end) isn't a big deal - but I don't think I could bring myself to send this kind of email. Anyways a top 10 list of reasons not to give:
1) tax deductions are meaningless to someone with no income.
2) his preference for giving does not impact your preference for giving.
3) you prefer more global giving (i.e. you donate to global charities) that help the poor in other countries - who almost certainly have a greater marginal benefit from that $$.
4) money is fungible - i.e., your donation is not actually being funneled to the people receiving the student aid. In other words, your donation has absolutely zero impact on *College*'s student aid policies.
5) you don't think that parents with 180k in annual income (which puts them in the 94th percentile of income distribution) deserve financial relief.
Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Household_income_in_the_United_States
6) *College* has a very large endowment and other universities almost certainly need that $$ more than *College* - it actually might help higher education to give to other schools.
7) *College* has had this policy for a few years now (I think since 2008? And I'm sure it was retroactive so existing students received benefits) - so I'm not sure what he means by dramatically increasing student aid - I guess relative to 3 or 4 years ago?
8) don't trust *College*'s investment managers - they got hammered during the financial crisis.
9) don't believe any non profit institutions should have a (*large number*) billion endowment that they are just sitting on.
Last but not least...
10) personal solicitations couched in "catch-up" emails to be very distasteful.
Hi XX,
I hope you’re doing well. I haven’t seen you in awhile, but last I heard you’re kicking butt at *Law School*. Have you and *Solicitor's girlfriend* hung out yet in *City Name*? She is finishing up her last year in Med School, so time is running out!
I think you maybe heard, but *Solicitor's girlfriend* and I are getting married! Chicago in early May of 2011. I'm hoping we get OK weather... This Christmas, I brought my never-traveled-internationally family out to China to see *Solicitor's girlfriend*'s extended family in Beijing for a large wedding banquet. It was one of those awesome cultural experiences, and my dad didn't even throw up at the sight of broiled sea cucumber (XY Note: broiled sea cucumber is actually quite good - squeamish Americans...)
Here’s the ulterior (XY Note: at least he acknowledged it) motive part -- I'm writing to see if you wanted to donate to the 5th Reunion *College* Class Gift. After getting thoroughly jaded by being one of *College* Senior Gift leaders (THANK YOU again for donating to Senior Gift and then again in 2007 and 2010!), I didn't think I'd ever again end up helping *College* solicit donations. (XY note: yet here you are...)
What really has resonated with me over the last few years (and made me want to solicit donations again) is how *College* has DRAMATICALLY enhanced financial aid for families of all levels of means. I.E., families with under $60k in income don't pay a cent. And families with incomes up to $180k get some level of financial aid. That's way better than any other school. It allows parents of all means to put their smart kids into *College* and on track to change completely the opportunities that they can access. I'm pledging $5000, myself, to support this continued sweetening of the pot that's going on only at *College*.
Three housekeeping things -- First, obviously your donation i tax deductible. So if you donate this year you can get the deduction for 2011. Second, for the 5th Reunion Gift you can pledge an amount and pay it off over 3 years. For example, if you pledge $1000 (or whatever), you would get that $1000 counted towards the 5th Reunion Gift but you could pay it off in 2012 or 2013. Third, if you have a company or organization that will match donations, the entire amount (including match) gets counted towards your donation.
Any questions, let me know! There are lots of ways that you can direct your donation only to areas you care about most. The website where you can donate is: *website link redacted*. If you want to do the pledge and then pay off over a few years, let me know and I will get you into touch with *Another Solicitor* from the Reunion Committee who can help you..
Finally, if you have some extra time and the inclination, the 5th Reunion Gift Committee is looking for new volunteers. They just recruited me a few months ago...
-*Solicitor*
On a level of 1-10 how inappropriate is this email? I'll put it at a 7. I guess if you have no shame then just spamming people emails like this (faux catch-up with a huge solicitation attached at the end) isn't a big deal - but I don't think I could bring myself to send this kind of email. Anyways a top 10 list of reasons not to give:
1) tax deductions are meaningless to someone with no income.
2) his preference for giving does not impact your preference for giving.
3) you prefer more global giving (i.e. you donate to global charities) that help the poor in other countries - who almost certainly have a greater marginal benefit from that $$.
4) money is fungible - i.e., your donation is not actually being funneled to the people receiving the student aid. In other words, your donation has absolutely zero impact on *College*'s student aid policies.
5) you don't think that parents with 180k in annual income (which puts them in the 94th percentile of income distribution) deserve financial relief.
Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Household_income_in_the_United_States
6) *College* has a very large endowment and other universities almost certainly need that $$ more than *College* - it actually might help higher education to give to other schools.
7) *College* has had this policy for a few years now (I think since 2008? And I'm sure it was retroactive so existing students received benefits) - so I'm not sure what he means by dramatically increasing student aid - I guess relative to 3 or 4 years ago?
8) don't trust *College*'s investment managers - they got hammered during the financial crisis.
9) don't believe any non profit institutions should have a (*large number*) billion endowment that they are just sitting on.
Last but not least...
10) personal solicitations couched in "catch-up" emails to be very distasteful.
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